We lean often on the things we're told are truths without fully checking in with ourselves if they are. We look for constants in the way things have always been in order to find some kind of pattern recognition for this life, a place to rest.
When something occurs outside of the pattern, we are shocked, thrown off balance, and sometimes questioning everything. Our consistency then must not come from the outside, must not come from our thoughts and ideas, ever-changing clouds running through our minds.
We are taught to work hard and make things solid so that we can rest in them- if we have a stable job, housing, relationship, future plan, then we will be safe. If we are good to people around us, good to our families, perhaps even taking the extra step to always strive for more, then we'll be ok.
The false sense of safety here puts so much on our shoulders, requires so much of us, and tells us that if something occurs that is not this, we are failures. It is a sharp and viscous cycle that pressurizes our egos at best and gives us an idea of power that we have to sell our true peace to in order to keep it running.
A resonance with our inner knowing, a telling of a deeper truth, and a releasing of control leads to a balance. If you've lived your whole life off-center or in a balance that required you to hold your breath, this balance could feel a bit uncomfortable. There are no external markers that tell you that you've found it and that it will always stay this way. It is rather a heartbeat or an undercurrent of remembering who you are.
You may even find that the louder that heartbeat gets, the more that the outside world goes into disarray for a while. If so much of your life was built on forcing, coming into alignment can look a lot like chaos at first.
My invitation is to slow it way down. Rather than turning this into a new project of things to do, focus only on turning up the volume on that resonance. See what you can sense, what it asks of you from there.
In listening to mine, it feels most resonant for me to then walk alongside others while they listen to theirs. That is why I do what I do. Coaching has become a tool for intimate looks into people's worlds, taking inventory not just of where their lives are and where they'd like to see them headed, but also into the inner workings of their belief systems, undercurrents of truth, and interconnectedness to those around them. Reiki has become a tool to speak to the body and the subconscious mind in order to promote relaxation. And any of the tools that emerge from my intuitive nature have become my way to support people in remembering theirs. If you read this, there is always an invitation for you to come learn more by responding here or booking time on my calendar through these links.
An exciting shift for my year this year is the opportunity not only to work with some of these tools in an in-person format but also to collaborate with three other leaders who have some complementary approaches for us all to learn from. The Alchemy of Us retreat is half full now with 3 months left before we're off to Tubac Arizona together, and I would love to speak with you to determine whether this is experience would support on your path. We will be together October 15-19. And I'm more than happy to talk through what your personal reasons for being there would be to find alignment with the curriculum.
In a stark example like the world we're living in between fragmented living and distorted values vs. listening for resonance and living that way, I find that some quiet internal space coupled with some trusted community are important spaces to remember who we are.
